Some of us appear to be always unhappy. Even when they achieve something significant, they are still unhappy about something else. It is more habitual unhappiness then real. They use the tool of victimhood to keep themselves always unhappy and at the centre of everyone’s pity. They believe and act as if the whole world is against them, fate is against them, God is against them and that everyone else is much more fortunate then they are. While at the start, such behaviour tends to attract sympathy from the near ones and even strangers. However, over time it can cause people to wear out and start avoiding the whining person, who constantly fail to sympathise with anyone else.
I do not believe that such behaviour is on purpose and that someone wants to remain constantly unhappy. This is more to do with a lack of self-confidence and self-appreciation. Their natural instinct is to demean their own achievements mostly by comparing to someone doing better, without any intention to doing better themselves.
“It is important to assess our own behaviour if we find people distancing from us.“
There is another breed of people who tend to use victimhood as a means to manipulate people and extract gains that they never deserve. They extract sympathy out of their fabricated misfortune and dupe unwilling good souls in providing undue favours. These people are borderline criminals against happiness in any healthy society. Much like a rotten vegetable in a bag of healthy vegetables, which if not isolated in time make all others rot along. Again such behaviour doesn’t last long but leaves a trail of unhappy people who come to realise that they were cheated, and probably decided to never help another soul.
“What hurts more than any misfortune, is when someone cheated you and you couldn’t realise it on time.”
In my life, I have come across both these breeds, and I found two things that are common in both. One they are unhappy and second that they extract your happiness and leave you unpleasant. While one does it, unknowingly and second do it purposely.
If after reading this you find yourself as one of this category, please re-evaluate your thoughts and decide better for your happiness and of those around you. If you find yourself in the company of the first kind, try to rationalize with them, and if you must, help in measures you won’t have to regret. If you find yourself in the company of the second kind, well just leave immediately.
Thanks for reading.
Stay happy, stay conscious.. !!