चिंता से मेरी लड़ाई है … #stress

हैं कष्ट सभी के जीवन में,

पर सच से बहुत बड़ी है चिंता,

संभल को दो शब्द भी मुश्किल,

सौ किस्से लिए खड़ी है चिंता,

हो गृह जीवन या कर्मक्षेत्र ,

हर ओर ही चिंता छाई है,

अपने खुश जीवन की खातिर,

अब चिंता से मेरी लड़ाई है,

मन है, मेरा मनोबल है ,

जीवन की इच्छा सारी है,

कमजोर कर रही भीतर से,

ये चिंता सब पर भारी है,

है बुद्धि और ज्ञान भी है,

ये मेरे तीर कमान भी हैं ,

पर बंधक है भाबुक मन,

और चिंता से संग्राम भी है,

मेरे विरुद्ध चलती है रण में,

है सोच मेरी चिंता के दल में,

थका रही मस्तिष्क को मेरे,

डुबा डुबा चिंता के जल में,

ग्रहयुद्ध सा चलता है अंदर,

मन नहीं मस्तिष्क के वस में,

सही गलत का भेद हो रहा,

धुंधला अब इस असमंजस में,

ले बचा कोई मुझको मुझसे,

दे दिखा मार्ग सुख शांति का,

साधन हो योग शास्त्र जैसा,

करे नष्ट अंधेरा भ्रान्ति का,

हो उपाय समस्या के अनुसार ही,

अनावश्यक चिंतन कम करना है,

सरल जीवन में सुख लाने को,

चिंता का दमन करना है,

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More strength to all the stressed.. 🤝

De-stress and stay healthy… !!!

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रोजाना (cont. )

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वही चाहना वही बहाना, रोजाना,
वही रुलाना वही मनाना रोजाना,
थक कर सब छोड़ अकेले चल देना,
फिर लौट के प्यार सजाना रोजाना,

वही दर्द और वही दवाई रोजाना,
वही उद्यम और वही थकाइ रोजाना,
श्रम भर बेतन पाने की खातिर,
सेहत की फिर वही रुसवाई रोजाना,

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रोजाना (1st set)

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Stay in love, stay healthy .. !!

CH 10 Happiness Around Painful Relationship

Some relations we get by birth and more we choose from what we get on the way in life. Relationships are supposed to add flavour to life, a sense of support and belongingness comes along. It can be friendship, love or simple acquaintances, all play their roles, that can make or ruin the day. The intensity of pain or happiness is dependent on the attachment with the related person.

‘Bad choice of relationship in life is like the extra salt in an otherwise perfect dish. It can ruin the taste so bad, we feel, it was better when there was no salt at all.’

All relationships need efforts from both sides to sustain. We need to identify first if a relationship is worth fighting for or its for best to let go and move on. Doing so may be more complex then it may sound. But the painful relations, also popularly known as “toxic relations”, are usually un-repairable as they involve some kind of exploitation of one person by the other. It may be financial, political, social, or emotional exploitation where one person gains out of another person’s pain. Such relations are like infections, which can be fatal if not treated and removed.

It is not only the relationship in itself but also the social implications that come with it, that makes it complicated to resolve the issues. Even if breaking such relation may cause discomfort, one needs to focus on long term happiness benefits.

A simple trick I use to test the worth of any relationship is to imagine the loss that other person will feel if I am not around. ‘If he/she doesn’t care if you die(leave), he/she is not worth not dying for’. Turns out, it’s more simple then we thought.

‘when someone doesn’t care if you die, he/she is not worth not dying for’

While the relationships are meant to be mutual and that needs you to contribute your share with honesty and dedication. Its crucial not to loose sight of your happiness over the responsibility of sustaining the relationship. If you continuously find yourself unhappy then some change is required in any relationship. Change may not be drastic or negative always, but just something new or different to freshen up the relations and create scope for mutual happiness.

Blood relations and family ties are something that can not be changed or replaced. When such relations are painful they are in fact too painful. There is only a option to distance from this pain to be able to focus on one’s own happiness. If someone or even everyone call you selfish for that, be selfish … !!

Most important step in the journey towards sustainable happiness is to forgive and not forget who have hurt you.

Stay happy, stay selfish.. !!

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CH 9

CH 11

राखी पर यादें…

बचपन में साथ ही पढ़ते थे, साथ ही खेला करते थे,

फिर करके हाथापाई , माता की मार भी झेला करते थे,

तुम भाई भी थे और मित्र भी थे,

हर नये साल के मानचित्र भी थे,

एक होड़ तुम्ही से रहती थी, तुमसे बेहतर बन जाने की,

तुम आगे आगे चले सदा, मेरे लिए राह बनाते आने की,

तुमने रक्षा करी नहीं कभी, मुझे समर्थ बनाया बस,

अपनी जंग आप ही जीतो, इतना समझाया बस,

स्कूल से कॉलेज तक की पढ़ाई, तुमसे सीखी कर कर लड़ाई,

घर का छूटना मेहसूस नहीं था, क्यूंकि कॉलेज में थे तुम भाई,

लगी नौकरी साथ छूटा, राह अलग हो गयी थी तब,

तुम गए अलग सहर को थे, में गयी अलग सहर थी जब,

वो प्यार रहा, वो नेह रहा , रोजाना फ़ोन पर बात रहीं ,

ऑफिस ऐसा मौसम वैसा, घर जाने की योजना कहीं ,

राखी पर मिल ही जाता था , मौका रसम निभाने का,

हक़ से अपना उपहार मिले , और खर्चा घूमने घुमाने का,

बदले तुम थोड़े जब , शादी का शुभ मुहूर्त आया,

अपने जीवन में नये रिश्तों को तुमने धीरे से अपनाया,

तुम ब्यस्त हुए फिर और भी ग्रास्थी की जिम्मेदारी में,

आपस में संकोच बढ़ा, दिन भर की मारा मारी में,

तुमसे ज्यादा बातें अब तो भाभी से हो जाती हैं,

तुम काम या आलस करते हो, बातें पीछे रह जाती हैं,

समय गया, सहर बदले, फिर सहज हम भी हो गए,

अपने जीवन के रिश्तों में, हम भी थोड़ा सा खो गए,

राखी अब भी मन जाती है, लिफाफे में हो या हाथ में,

भाई पर क्या हम अब वो मित्र नहीं जो कभी रहते थे साथ में?

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Dedicated to my big brother.

“Love you bhai.. but had to say 🙄”

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Happy Rakshabandhan to all !!!!

प्यार का हक़… 💔❣️

प्यार मांग के नहीं मिलता, छीन लेने की चीज भी नहीं,

तरस खा के दिया गया नेह, खुशियों का बीज भी नहीं,

प्यार का हक़ तो सबको है, पर मिलना आसान नहीं,

क्यूंकि प्यार तो बस भावना है कोई सौदे का सामान नहीं,

प्यार करो तो मिल भी जाये, ऐसा भी जरूरी नहीं,

रिश्तों के बंधन होते हैं पर प्यार कोई मजबूरी नहीं,

किसी के प्यार पर आश्रित होना समझदारी नहीं,

क्यूंकि आपकी खुशी किसी और की जिम्मेदारी नहीं,

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Only if love was not that complex ….!!

Lots of Love to all the readers… !!

Stay happy stay healthy .. !!

CH 9: Happiness Without Self ?

We all want to be happy. But what if, the factor of Self is missing. If someone does not value himself or herself. Is happiness even possible? I guess there is always a way, one should have the will to find it.

There can be one possibility, ‘being selfless‘. A person who has found salvation and devoted oneself to the greater good and spiritual explorations. There is no ‘self’ but there are happiness and peace. Although not impossible, this is a less probable option that most of us can relate with.

Other then the above, there is no happiness, unless we are happy with ourselves, to at least a minimum level of satisfaction. Lack of self-esteem is one of the major factors when we begin to doubt ourself, the satisfaction levels drop drastically. There is a lot of literature and self-help content available online and offline to help people realise their worth and revive their self-esteem. My personal favourite are listed below…..

Let Past be Past, easy and straight. Whatever have already happened can not be changed so crying over it, is counter productive. Best is to take the lesson and move on.

Out of control is Out of concern. Whatever is beyond your control and not infulenced by your actions is better left to happen. There is no use bothering about it.

Work on what you can change. Start with yourself, your looks, the way you talk, what you eat or anything that will make the situation better. Then Help others. Helping Others will raise self-esteem very quickly.

Be content. While there are genuine cases of depression and dispare, there are also lot of unnecessary grieving over non essential accomplishments. To keep world a happy place, people need to learn to diffrentiate between sorrow for necesscity and luxury.

Change the Reference Point. When you find yourself completely helpless, so much so that happiness seems impossible. Change the point of reference from where you are measuring your accomplishments. Best not to compare with others and try to better yourself from yesterday and not from 10 years before.

Its not your fault, and even if it is, forgive yourself. All that goes wrong is not always your doing. There is the whole universe responsible for what all happens. If someone has been in an accident and lost a leg or someone is suffering from an incurable disease, the will to enjoy life is hard to find. The First step is to believe in a better life and forgive all the causes of the pain, including yourself.

In short alter the prespective that suit to your situation to see the bright side. Just when you find the will to work on the Self Factor, improve everyday and make a happy life out of whatever situation you are in. Lastly seek help when you can not do it yourself, just like we take a cab when we can’t walk home.

Life is Beautiful believe it and Live it.

Stay Focused and Stay Healthy.. !!

CH 8

CH 10