CH 13 (UN)HAPPINESS AND VICTIMHOOD

Some of us appear to be always unhappy. Even when they achieve something significant, they are still unhappy about something else. It is more habitual unhappiness then real. They use the tool of victimhood to keep themselves always unhappy and at the centre of everyone’s pity. They believe and act as if the whole world is against them, fate is against them, God is against them and that everyone else is much more fortunate then they are. While at the start, such behaviour tends to attract sympathy from the near ones and even strangers. However, over time it can cause people to wear out and start avoiding the whining person, who constantly fail to sympathise with anyone else.

I do not believe that such behaviour is on purpose and that someone wants to remain constantly unhappy. This is more to do with a lack of self-confidence and self-appreciation. Their natural instinct is to demean their own achievements mostly by comparing to someone doing better, without any intention to doing better themselves.

“It is important to assess our own behaviour if we find people distancing from us.

There is another breed of people who tend to use victimhood as a means to manipulate people and extract gains that they never deserve. They extract sympathy out of their fabricated misfortune and dupe unwilling good souls in providing undue favours. These people are borderline criminals against happiness in any healthy society. Much like a rotten vegetable in a bag of healthy vegetables, which if not isolated in time make all others rot along. Again such behaviour doesn’t last long but leaves a trail of unhappy people who come to realise that they were cheated, and probably decided to never help another soul.

“What hurts more than any misfortune, is when someone cheated you and you couldn’t realise it on time.”

In my life, I have come across both these breeds, and I found two things that are common in both. One they are unhappy and second that they extract your happiness and leave you unpleasant. While one does it, unknowingly and second do it purposely.

If after reading this you find yourself as one of this category, please re-evaluate your thoughts and decide better for your happiness and of those around you. If you find yourself in the company of the first kind, try to rationalize with them, and if you must, help in measures you won’t have to regret. If you find yourself in the company of the second kind, well just leave immediately.

©sarikatripathi

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आजकाल, जागने से भी सवेरा नहीं होता..🌚🌝

सूरज है रौशन पर, दूर अंधेरा नहीं होता,

आजकाल, जागने से भी सवेरा नहीं होता,

मोबइल में अलार्म, टुनटुना कर कई बार रोता है,

की उठो तो सही, इतनी देर तक क्या कोई सोता है,

हर रोज, एक नये दिन का आभास तो होता है,

पर नये दिन में करने को, कुछ खास नहीं होता है,

कई बार पोधों को मिलते हैं, पत्तियों को गिनते हैं,

और खुद से बातें करते हुए, कई ख्याल बुनते हैं ,

यदि सारी योजनाओं को अंत में अपूर्ण ही रहना था,

तो उनके पाने के लिए इतना कष्ट क्यों सहना था,

जैसे की जीवन में अर्थ कुछ कम होने लगे से हैं,

पर इस सब के बीच भी कुछ सपने जगे से हैं,

सवेरे में जब हम अलार्म को आगे बढ़ाते होते हैं,

ऐसा नहीं की हर उम्मीद छोड़ कर बेसुध सोते हैं,

अँधेरे ने घेरा है तो कुछ रौशनी भी ढूंढ़ते रहना,

सूरज ना मिले तो किसी चाँद को अपना कहना,

कुछ उमीदें रोशन रखना अंधेरों में भी,

क्यूंकि यह बादल छटेंगे कभी न कभी,

©सरिकात्रिपाठी

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CH 12 HAPPINESS AMONG LONELINESS

Before getting into counting the pain and problems I will start with a tip, “Count your Blessings“. It is a rather simple thing you can do to cheer yourself up within seconds. If you have a roof over your head, food on the table, electricity and water running, a place to sleep, you are much better then many lakhs of people on the earth. Further, if your health is reasonably fine and you also have family and friends to talk to, you have the luxury of life. Then if you have a job to trade your time and skills for some money you are even more privileged. Finally, if you have all this at the same place, you should not even complain. But like me, if you don’t have everything I listed above but just a few of them, be hopeful and thankful for what you have.

“When you feel sad, bad or angry just Count your Blessings, to calm down and rationalise your response, not necessarily to forget the cause”

Being alone and being lonely is never the same thing. Many people like to be alone most of the time and enjoy it, many others live alone and yet remain connected to their friends, family and colleagues over virtual means. While many people enjoy an elaborate social life, many others remain lonely even in most dense social setups. It all depends on the balance of what you want and what you get, that decides how you feel about your situation.

“It all depends on the balance of what you want and what you get, that decides how you feel”

The recent times have indiscriminately isolated huge fractions of world population from each other. However, each one of us experiences this isolation very differently. Some of us feel the divide between countries for our travel plans are ruined or someone from the family is abroad. Some of us feel the lack of domestic travel affecting us for similar reasons. But most of us are unaffected by the travel restrictions and miss going out to our offices, markets or gyms & parks. All of us liked our homes but the anxiety that results from restrictions and uncertainty is affecting everyone, maybe on different levels.

Loneliness and depression are creeping in while the world is bracing for the pandemic to pass. The economic meltdown is predicted soon after the economies will try to function after the lockdowns. Job insecurity is adding to the stress of the already frustrated working from the home workforce. All the factors that are mostly out of our hand as an individual.

All this brings us to the importance of maintaining our happiness and sanity more than ever. Every loss brings the possibility of a new beginning, but only those who remain capable of harnessing the opportunity will gain. The idea is to stay positive with focusing is on whatever is going good or at least not gone bad while it could have. Learning something new or something that we have kept on hold for later, can be the most rewarding outcome from the current situation.

Maintaining health is another challenge while restricted with lack of space, equipment and motivation. Well, same old Yoga is at our rescue as it doesn’t need much space or equipment and pandemic itself is the motivation to improve immunity.

We need to believe that no one is alone in this. Whatever will happen, it will happen to all and that everybody will come out together form it. With all the learnings from nature’s punishment hopefully, we will build a better world.

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> until then >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

stay in, stay safe and stay sane ….!!!

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INDIA FIGHTS CORONA

Though the fight is still on, its good that the light is also on…!!!

The government, all private and public sector companies are coming together and trying their best to make the whole event of lockdown as bearable as possible for everyone. The efforts from all sections working under the lockdown to keep the country operational are both unprecedented and appreciable. I get surprised every day how the seemingly inefficient infrastructure of India has improvised itself to manage the situation well beyond anyone’s expectations. Everything may not be perfect, but then, was anything anyway?

While the whole world and unfortunately including many Indians are waiting for India to fail, the responsible citizens and organisations are fighting with patience and determination to not let that happen. We wish we could do more then sitting at home and contributing to PM fund, but if this is required at the moment, then we stay at it.

Though the fight is still on, its good that the light is also on…!!!

वायरस का भय #COVID-19

जीवन अस्थिर, है असमंजस हर ओर,

वायरस का भय और गणनाओं का शोर,

करोना का होना, ना होना, बड़ा सवाल है,

होने की शंका होना उससे भी बड़ा बबाल है,

कुछ घर में बंधक, कुछ अनजान जगहों में,

भयभीत स्वप्न और शंकाएँ निगाहों में,

घर के काम और घर से काम की कोशिश जारी,

क्या कुछ सीखाके जाएगी ये महामारी,

आपनो के साथ कहीं सब मिल समय गुजारते हैं,

विदेशी धरती पर फसे कहीं अपने देश को पुकारते हैं,

सरकारें नित नये प्रतिबन्ध जारी करती जाती हैं,

नागरिकों से भी जिम्मेदारी की उम्मीद लगाती हैं,

उपचार से बेहतर बचाव, आज का सूत्र है यही ,

स्वास्थ्य के आगे समय या धन का भी कुछ मोल नहीं,

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More strength to all home and abroad.

Everyone take care of yourself

Hope all will be fine soon enough

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धेय जीवन के .. !!

कुछ धेय चुने थे जीवन के,

कुछ हिस्से थे मेरे मन के,

करना क्या था और कैसे था,

ये सब निर्धारित जैसे था,

पर नियति पर जोर न चल पाया,

मेरे मन जैसा न कल आया,

कोशिश फिर भी जारी रहती,

एक आशा अब भी प्यारी रहती,

अनजान मार्ग आते सम्मुख,

कुछ खुशियाँ और कुछ लाते दुःख,

रुक जाना कोइ उपचार नहीं,

मन कुंठित है लाचार नहीं,

बस हर रोज बढ़े आगे,

मन चाहे हर दिन न लागे,

बदले हैं मार्ग पर धेय नहीं,

झूठी उपलब्धियों से नेह नहीं,

पाकर जिनको मन भारी है,

और निभाने की लाचारी है,

ये बोझ उठाकर बांहों में,

चलते अंजानी राहों में,

विश्वास ह्रदय में बांधेंगे,

एक दिन धेय को साधेंगे !

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यादें कुछ भूली भूली सी..

हो रहा सही , सो रहा अभी,
जो कहा नहीं, सो रहा नहीं,
है वो जगह कहाँ , जाना जहाँ,
वो था कब, जब में भी था वहाँ,
आँखों में स्वप्न अधूरे हैं,
कहने को शब्द न पूरे हैं ,
यादें कुछ भूली भूली सी,
बातें कुछ हैं गोधूलि सी,
कुछ खींच रहा मेरे भीतर,
किस तरह में वहाँ जाऊ पर?
मन को अपने समझाता हूँ,
फिर भी क्यों उधर ही जाता हूँ,
जीवन में आगे बढ़ने को,
किसी और की जंग को लड़ने को,
छोड़ा मैंने जो घर था अपना,
अब लगता है भूला सा सपना,
जो याद बहुत तो आता है,
पर अब उससे कोई न नाता है,
जीवन की राहो में आगे,
एक अंधी दौड़ में थे भागे,
अब जब, सब कर, घर ही बसाना था,
तो फिर छोड़ा ही क्यों वो आसियाना था ?
हो कोई अगर तेरे घर पर,
दे ध्यान अभी इस अवसर पर,
यादें वो न भूली भूली हों,
सूनी न सब गोधूलि हों,
इस कारण जाते रहना है,
घर अपने आते रहना है,

©sarikatripathi
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